Today one of my closest (I thought) friends did an INCREDIBLY hurtful thing.
Without getting into the gory details, I’ll just say that this thoughtless action affects my coaching practice, for which I just launched my first Groupon this week – oh, and I graduate school in two weeks.
And, you know, it’s not that it might (only temporarily) affect clients signing up with me that has me most upset.
It’s that, after having to give up my nursing career, I have put my heart and soul into learning a whole new thing – which I am so proud of – and I have come to the point of graduation and celebration. . . And now my friend not only doesn’t seem to care about my graduation but also has seemed to say, “Oh, that? That’s nothing.” about my entire new profession.
And then proceeded to make my practice startup more difficult.
And this was a close friend.
And this is not the first time I have had to sort out a really inconsiderate thing with this friendship.
But this one is just crushing.
I am truly blown away.
So, what to do?
Honestly, it is not in my nature to be an angry person or to hold on to bad feelings (which is why I let go of the previous issues). Hell, I’m even friends with my son’s father now – and we had the nastiest divorce of all time (and the years prior to it were no treat either). But we are different people, we both have happy families, and we are coparenting together. Life is so much better for everyone involved since we let go of bitterness.
BUT. . . when someone is consistently hurtful – whether or not it is intentional – you have to draw a line somewhere. And I am there.
I am to the point of no more.
Some things can’t be fixed and this is one of them.
So, it’s time to say goodbye.
And I have to learn to be “mean” – even though it is not at all (and this is long overdue).
I just honestly can’t get my head around this as hard as I try.
Some things are just beyond me.
But. . .
My wonderful family has been amazing and I am so thankful.
And, after another nap, today is Church Day and I get to serve and see my sweet babies.
And I have faith that God has this situation too.
So, forward always.
Be well, everybody. Happy Sunday.
Grace and blessings.
Ugh. When you are a kind and loving person, it is so hard to fathom when others are hurtful. But sometimes recognizing when relationships are toxic and ridding ourselves of them truly is the best thing. Hugs.